Since Maelee’s passing I’ve heard a few comments about our unorthodox method of communication—blogging. Yeah, a blog is probably strange for anyone who knows what Medicare is, so I think we need to defend our decision a little. Just so you know, I really don’t like the word “blog.” It sounds like it weighs 453 pounds. And I don’t like the words “tweet” or “twitter” either. They sound like they weigh .000001 pounds. So let’s just call this a “web journal.”
It Helps Us
BECAUSE WE CAN SOMEWHAT CONTROL THE GRIEVING
Back in the day, people would stop by in droves after someone’s death. It’s been tough to have a lot of people around. We have a few stop by here and there, and that’s worked out well. And when we’ve had too much social interaction for one day, we can just stop, without having to kick 25 people out of the house. If you’re a counselor, maybe you know if this is an unhealthy way of doing things. Maybe we’re supposed to always have people around? I don’t know.
BECAUSE IT INCLUDES EVERYONE, EXCLUDES NO ONE
We don’t know where to draw the line with e-mails and phone calls. Do we e-mail this person and not that person? Do we call this person but only e-mail this person? We just decided to put the information out there for everyone … and I mean EVERYONE. That saves us stress and social responsibilities that hinder the grieving process.
So if you know someone who doesn’t read this (and would like to) because they don't know what a mouse or keyboard is, would you please print out the posts for them? If you really want it realistic and traditional, you could copy and paste the text and then change the words to a scripty font. Then forge our signature at the bottom, I don’t care.
BECAUSE IT'S THERAPEUTIC
I kind of have an idea of who’s reading, but not really. That’s probably a good thing. Then I can be more transparent. That’s therapeutic. And I deal with words all day and enjoy writing. So putting together a crisp and clean web journal post makes me think I’ve accomplished something. I can organize the messy grieving process into a nice little box.
It Helps You
BECAUSE YOU'RE HINDERED BY DISTANCE
For those of you far away, I think it’s helped you. You want to be here with us, but distance hinders that. We’re trying to give you a picture of what it’s like inside our house so you feel like you’re here.
BECAUSE YOU LOVE US
I don’t understand why anyone would be drawn to this web journal if it weren’t for them loving us. This is some deep, dark, messy stuff. Who’s drawn to this without some connection to us? Who really wants to be dreary and depressed when there’s so much fun and excitement outside this dark corner? So it’s good that when you’re ready to read, you can read. When you’re not, you just stay away.